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So, when I refer to shock, I’m referring to a state of being or a reaction.  There is much that can provoke such a state, from subtle events to more dramatic ones.  An event happens.  We feel shocked.  And then we move forward from an unsettled place.  Shock is when the spirit disconnects from the body.  The unsettled feeling afterwards is indicative of a spirit that hasn’t yet fully grounded itself into the body.

I love how in biomedical terminology the sympathetic nervous system is described as our, “fight or flight” response.  Exactly.  When in shock, the spirit is either “fighting” to survive through the experience, or it will “fly” right on out of the experience.  It’s survival energy.  An adrenaline rush.

In Chinese Medicine the kidneys process fear.  Thus, fear taxes the adrenal glands, our kidneys.  Cool overlap, yeah?  Fear can make it so that we are always in “fight or flight” mode, possibly leading to adrenal fatigue, a constant state of anxiety, unease, the need to be on guard at all times.  It’s a hormonal imbalance.  It’s a yin-yang imbalance.

It’s functioning off a belief that implies it’s not safe to relax.  A belief that says it’s not safe or beneficial to just be.

I experienced many shocking stories this past month.  Also saw a lot of unresolved shock.  Many of us are still carrying past trauma in our bodies.  Some of us are still functioning from the “unsafe to relax or be me,” space.  For some, there are opposing beliefs of both “safety” and “survival” in our space, indicating a willingness to let go the past, a desire to heal and root the spirit back into the body and still there is some past trauma to resolve.

I keep catching myself saying, “Your emotions are valid.  The way you feel right now is appropriate.”  It is okay to feel how you are feeling.  It’s okay to be frightened, nervous, distrusting, vulnerable, anxious, fearful, irritated, disappointed, and all of that after what you’ve experienced.  It’s also okay to have heart palpitations, feel nauseous, experience insomnia.

Yeah, yeah, who enjoys feeling this way, really?  Sure, it’d be great to fast forward to healed! Resolved! Over it!  It’d also be great to jump from weighing 220 pounds to 120 pounds.  Lots of things would be fantastic if happened over night.  We gotta accept that it just doesn’t work that way.  For most of us, for the most part, it’s a process.  It may take some time. Let’s honor the process, so that it may be as smooth and complete as possible.  So that even the process serves us.

Try to really connect to your physiological responses and your thoughts and emotions at this time.  “I feel like I can’t trust anyone after that.”  Make a list and really acknowledge it.  Be honest with yourself and be fair to yourself.  You’re experiencing what you are experiencing either way.  Wouldn’t it be more empowering to really experience it and gain some clarity in it?

Acknowledging what happened and where you’re currently at will help release any dis-serving energies and beliefs lingering in your space.   Going to the dark place and staying there makes it more comfortable.  It makes the darkness safe and not scary.  It helps create that safe home you’d like your spirit to ground back into.

Disconnect from the experience or your reaction, ignore it, or play super-human and jump to forgiveness with it and you may feel incomplete.  You may store it somewhere in your body where it’ll be easily triggered and super-activated in the future.  Or you may continue to unintentionally operate from it.

We’re all so different.  Each one of us processes life in our own unique ways.  Be patient with yourself.  Be gentle with yourself. Congratulate yourself for being in an empowered place where vulnerability or fear isn’t paralyzing you!  If you’re feeling things, if you’re emotional, you are more than likely shifting energy.  Good for you! It’ll only be a matter of time before you are saying, “Healed!  Over it!”

Intuitive Acupuncture Point

LingXu, Spirit Burial Ground, Kidney 24

If you press down with your fingers right underneath your collar bone, you can feel your ribs.  Below the third rib you feel is LingXu.  It’s about 2 inches to the right and left of your mid-line.

Ling Xu means “Spirit Burial Ground.”  It’s great for when the spirit needs to be resurrected.  Great for when it feels like you’re going through the motions but not really feeling them or engaged in them.  Or you’re experiencing a sense of disconnection, like something’s not right.  This point helps ground your spirit back into your body so you feel like yourself again!

It’s indicated for “anxiety and mental restlessness,” you know, all that fun stuff mentioned earlier that may happen after shock or trauma. That stuff that some of us do have a tendency to operate from.

Try tapping on it with 2 or 3 fingers.  Try it for a minute.  Try it whenever you feel anxious.  Try it when you’re looking to feel grounded.  A nice mantra to repeat while tapping is, “It is safe to relax.  It is safe to be me.”