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“Despise not death, but welcome it, for nature wills it like all else.” ~Marcus Aurelius

Fall is totally for nostalgia, my sweet loves! Take a look around ya: leaves are changing and falling away. All sortsa plants are dying or preparing to check out for winter and just go dormant. The days are shorter, the sun goes to bed WAY earlier, and the air all around us is getting colder.

Fall naturally pushes us to seek comfort, to go deeper within our shelter and hide away for a while. It makes perfect sense that all of these “bummer” environmental triggers would bring on musings of our own personal losses.

Fall is the “let go” season – whether you find yourself reflecting on an ex-lover or friend, a loved one that has passed on or you cozy, comfy security blanket from your childhood – you are not alone!! In fact, I wanna say at least 80% of my clients have been feeling this natural funk lately.

Aaaaand, did ya know that in Chinese Medicine fall is THEE season for grieving, loss, nostalgia and so on? Yup! Sure is! So if you’re feeling it, don’t beat yourself up! Accept the fact that you are TOTALLY in tune with nature… how very Daoist of you!!

Metal is the element of the fall and it’s sort of a morbid element, to tell ya the truth. It’s all about loss, grieving and letting go. Buuuut! It also embodies inspiration, divinity and excellence. Metal encourages us to make peace with loss, to make peace with the cycle of life and to get closer to the ultimate truth.

Ignoring all the sad parts won’t get ya closer to the truth. It’ll only cause additional suffering because loss is inevitable, essential, and here to stay.

And you know what, loves? So what?! Sad is just sad and it doesn’t need to be devastating forever. Truly, it doesn’t even stop us in our tracks. It just hangs us up for a moment as it just… IS. Loss and it’s inevitable sadness are completely natural and valid… and we really gotta honor that. It’s just doing it’s thing!! It’s just trying to help you do your thing!! It’s evolution, my loves!!

Are ya noticing a common thread between all this? Could it be the same force behind those changing leaves and shorter days? Hmmm… change seems to be the only constant here, yeah? That’s because impermanence is a natural law.

And ya know what? Making friends with impermanence allows us to own our own space and harness our own power. Allows us to really take in the moment & make each moment count cuz it’s all we got! Not so scary when ya look at it that way, huh?!

Making peace with your past and feeling gratitude for all that once was actually clears space for us to better embrace the present tense. Letting go ultimately allows space to open up so we can begin to let in.

Feeling at peace with loss, comfortably letting go of your losses, and remembering the past with gratitude will help all of us to feel more complete and in sync with nature. Being more in touch with nature leads to a better connection with the divine which clears space for inspirational energy to flow through us- who doesn’t love that?

“New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” Lao Tzu

It may be a bit uncomfortable to embrace your loss at first, but keep in mind that there are always two sides to one coin. With every new beginning (that came from an ending) you have a *sparkly* new opportunity to relate to things in a different way. Go ahead and recreate yourself!! Become a new you!! A changed you!! An enlightened-nuurvana’d you!!

Take a moment to give thanks to all you’ve lost and then think of what doors have been opened for ya as a result. What have you invited into your life since the loss? You’ve made it this far, you rock star, and I am sooo proud of you!! C’mon! Share your experience with the world to help guide others through their own losses!! Comment below and let’s get this acceptance of losses cooking, ya’ll!